Coming from an African Background, I have found that Parents refuse you from going into any relationship at all because obviously they think it will end in sexual morality but what if you really like someone and you want to just have that person thinking of you and you thinking of them?
A lot of my friends have been baffled at this no dating rule because if you don't date someone, how do you get to know them and choose the right lifetime partner?
But also there is the mentality that going out with too many guys cheapens you and makes you the less preferred choice for marriage.
So
What does the bible actually say about dating?
Is there an age range that determines your suitability to date?
Is there an age range that determines your suitability to date?
What does abstinence involve? (obviously sex before marriage is A NO-NO but then the other little things people do..does that contribute to sin or is it ok?)
People need to know what is right and what is wrong and at the moment people are living in grey zones....
I hope God shed light on this topic for us all.
Do comment and share your own thoughts as to what you think The Christian stance is on this!
God bless.
.."All things are possible with God." - Mark 10:27
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this is a tough one
What does the Bible say about Dating?
I guess it all depends on your definition of dating. If dating for you is the same as your parents courting back in the day then there are stories in the Bible that can shed some light on what is kosher and what isn't.
Now if dating for you means I am 16 and i want to have a boyfriend even tho' i know i am no where near settling down then the Bible has absolutely no advice for you. Dating in the american culture isn't a precursor to marriage but just a let's-have-fun mentality.
I believe this is dangerous and leaves many people with scars. The divorce rate is evidence enough of people with baggage getting into commitments with people with baggage.
So yeah.
That's the first question
What is your motive?
After answering the motive question.
The next thing is to ask the attraction question.
What draws you to that individual:
The story of Jacob/Rachel, Esau/his wives, Samson/Delilah, David/Bathsheba, Ruth/Boaz, Ammon/Tamar, Solomon/Egyptian Princess, are just a couple of examples that shed light on this issue.
Age: goes back to motive: are you within 2-5 years of tying the knot. Can you handle a mature relationship?
Sex and all the frills: some of us will never have sex before marriage but the frills hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
yeah the bible has a lot to say on the issue. check out Paul's writings to the corithians. Lust is different from intimacy. So when lust is awakened, james 4:17 comes to mind. Fornication is different from adultery and the media cannot set the limit or the boundaries, so just cuz it flies on the disney channel and abc doesn't mean it is cool with God
one last thing to add: If you use the world as the standard and just try to do less than they do you have already crossed the line. God is the standard, His Word, and the Holy Spirit should lead you, anything else is the beautiful cool path to hell.
i gotta study
i'm out
@dating-i wish i had the right words-but how can i comment on something i dont understand.
How have you been
@ kafo - wow! i like i like...you really did justice to this topic! lol.. Yh God is our ultimate standard and everything else does not matter but then It can be easy to lose focus. Anyways pls go back to ur books! thnx for ur input.x
@ Robyn - I'm fine..been reallly busy but I'm going strong.
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